Am I "Too Much?"

Do you often feel like you are too much? Especially when you are having a bad time? Maybe several years of a bad time? When I was in the middle of my hells, I told myself to "space myself out" across my friends so that I didn't worry about over burdening anyone. All of my best friends are therapists and make a living out of supporting people. They assured me it wasn't necessary. But still. 🤷

We've heard that from people before, right? We've heard people vent to us about how difficult it can be to support someone who is in the thick of it or has a lot of feelings. But if your best friend calls you 4 days in a row, or 4 weeks in a row, you probably wouldn't accuse them of being too much. You might feel some compassion fatigue, but you maybe wouldn't say it in those words.

I want to validate that maybe your circumstances are a big deal. Maybe the stories you have are actually dramatic. Sometimes we are people who have big feelings. There are times in our lives when those things are true. It's important to be surrounded by people who don't make us feel badly or criticized or shamed for it. Shame and criticism make it harder to move through the feelings, harder to find solutions, and harder to heal. So even if it's true that you have a flair for the dramatic, being criticized for it doesn't help. 

It is ok to notice that you might be in a difficult time in life. You're "processing something," or "going through it." There are times when you are asking for more support from your people than others. But it doesn't mean that you are a person who is too much.

You can get through to the other side, where your life is more stable, and the hurts are fewer and farther between. But you need people who validate you and care for you and appreciate you during that process.

If you're feeling like you need to add to your support network, book a session today!